Things I would say to 20 year old me
Learning from your mistakes is a powerful thing. If you can learn from other people’s mistakes before you make them yourself, then even better.
Here are some bits of wisdom I would pass onto my younger self and other young people:
Some friendships will fade
A few friends are for the long haul but most are for a season. Some will drift away; others will become stronger than you ever expected.
Jealousy will make you bitter, so celebrate when others get what you want.
If you haven't used it in a year get rid of it – you won’t miss it.
Embrace being single
There are advantages to being in a relationship and advantages to being single. Embrace the season you’re in.
Don’t have a sense of entitlement
Don’t assume things will fall in your lap. It won’t always work out. You’ll have to work hard.
Spend time writing out your thoughts and prayers - it will help you process and later reflect on all that God has done.
Experiences are more valuable than things
Travel, go on walks, have parties, create meaningful memories.
You’ll get over heartbreak
It’s rough at the time but you will eventually move on.
Don’t forget family
Honour your parents by keeping in touch.
Set up a budget
It will help you give well, save well, and spend well.
Try different hairstyles
It’s a good time to find out what works and what doesn’t.
Don’t confuse Christians with God
When Christians and church leaders disappoint and hurt you, remember that God is still good and being in a church community is still so important.
Find someone you can confess to and will challenge you.
Things don’t necessarily work out as you expected so you may need to adjust your expectations along the way.
Don’t be afraid to question friends who are dating
Not all relationships are the right thing. If you have serious concerns about close friends, sharing them is the most loving thing you can do.
If your parents, boss, ex, friend has hurt you don’t hold onto bitterness. Praying that God will bless them is hard but massively helps forgive and heal.
A job doesn't have to be forever
Don’t put too much pressure on your first job working out. Tons of people will change within the first few years.
No one has it all together
Everyone is flawed and trying to work out life. Be kind to yourself. Chill and talk openly about your flaws.
Sometimes you’ll get why things happened, often you won’t. Trust that he’s working all things for good.